TRAITS FOR BUILDING POSITIVE PERSONALITY

1. Accept Responsibility:
The price of grateness is the responsibility – Winston Churchill
“Responsibility gravitates to the person who can shoulder them.” -- Elbert Hubbard Society is not
destroyed by the activities of the rascals, but by the inactivity of good people.
2. Show consideration :
Show consideration, courtesy, politeness and caring.
3. Think Win-Win :
4. Choose your words carefully:
The principle is your speaking must be better than silent, rather be silent. Words spoken out of
bitterness can cause irreparable damage. The way the parents speak to their children in many
instances shapes their children’s destiny.
5. Never Criticize, Complain and Condemn
6. Smile and Be Kind :
Smile is the shortest distance between two people.
7. Put Positive interpretation on other people’s behavior:
We see the world not as it is, but as we are. So when we are interpreting other peoples behavior
negatively we just reflecting our own mentality to this situation. In contrast when interpret
positively, chances that other people may realize its negativity and change or amend this.
8. Be a Good Listener :
Effective communication is 50% listening, 25% speaking, 15% reading and 10% writing. So when
we listen carefully then 50% communication is done.
9. Be Enthusiastic :
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm--- Ralph Waldo Emersion
10. Give honest and Sincere Appreciation :
The desire to feel important is one of the greatest cravings in most of the human beings and it can
be a great motivator. Honest and sincere appreciation makes one feel important and promote these
positive qualities in him. In contrast giving false and insincere appreciation is flattery or
sycophancy which in the long run is harmful to the receipient.
11. When you make a mistake, accept it and make it easy to amend:
Mistakes are to be learned from. So accept it immediately and make change or amend easy.
12. Discuss but don’t argue:
Arguing is like fighting a losing battle. Even if one wins in the argument, the cost may be more
than the worth of victory. An Ignominious victory is a defeat itself.
13. Don’t Gossip:
Gossip may lead to slander and defamation of character. People who listen to gossip are as guilty
as those who do the gossiping.
14. Turn your promises into commitment:
Commitment leads to enduring relationship through thick and thin. It shows in a person,s
personality and relationship.
15. Be grateful but do not expect gratitude:
16. Be dependable and practice loyalty:
An ounce of loyalty is worth more than a pound of cleverness. Ability without dependability is of
no worth.
17. Avoid bearing grudges:
Life is too small to bear grudges. John Kennedy once said “forgive the other person but don’t
forget their name.” Means “if one cheated me once it is his fault, but if cheats me wice then it is
my fault.” Don’t be cheated regularly to forgive.
18. Practice honesty, Integrity and Sincerity:
Lies may have speed, but the truth has endurance. Honesty, Integrity and Sincerity have more
enduring effect than the opposite.
19. Practice Humility:
Confidence without humility is arrogance. Sincere Humility is the foundation of all virtues. It is a
sign of greatness.
20. Be understanding and Caring :
The best way to be understood is to be understanding. And the basis of real communication is also
understanding.
21. Practice courtesy on daily basis :
22. Develop a sense of humor:
Have a sense of humor and you will possess the ability to laugh at yourself. A sense of humor
makes a person likeable and attractive. Some people are humor-impaired.
23. Don’t be sarcastic and put others down :
24. To have a friend be a Friend :
Mutual trust and confidence are the foundation stones of all friendship.
25. Show Empathy :
Empathy alone is a very important characteristic of positive personality. People with empathy ask
themselves this question, “how would I feel if someone treated me that way?”